Yesterday in our Monday meeting, our CEO told the entire company to give some space to a colleague whose parent is not expected to live much longer. That undersells it. He told us under no circumstances to contact her about work - to call him instead. I have the most respect for him for this.
My boss did the same thing for me when Dad was dying. I also wasn't checking email or answering work calls, but he was the bouncer for sure. He also sent some really good food to the house. What a mensch!
Losing a parent, especially for those of us who are devoted to our families (like my colleague, like me) is basically joining a really shitty club that you can't unjoin. The club offers no real benefits.
We're creeping up on the anniversary date, and I spent the weekend in Atlanta where, let's face it, I was surrounded by the fact that my father is gone.
I'm also about to make a change, in re: things from my father's life. I have these curtains in the kitchen, and Matt has mentioned several times now that he doesn't really like them, but since it makes me happy... I made them from my father's neckties. The fact is, while I do need kitchen curtains, it would be better to have some that are generally well-liked, and I'd like the ties to serve a new purpose. I'm going to turn them into a wrap to wear out with a nice dress to theatre, or concerts or whatever. Here is what I have in mind, as visualized in this Canva rendering. Not to scale - but you get the idea.
I also need to find the new curtains. I know what I want - I think, but it may not exist. More is the pity.
But that seems like a good start for using the ties in a way that is more personal and may allow them a longer lifespan.
Enough on that, though.
As you may know, I tend to have what I can only describe as micro-obsessions. One of my current ones is the Disney movie, Encanto - or, more accurately, the music from Encanto.
My top three: 3. Family Madrigal, 2. We Don't Talk About Bruno, 1. Surface Pressure.
I still want to actually see the movie.
But you know, we'll get there.